Sunday, October 19, 2008

I'm just going to borrow this...

I've been diving into some of my mom's books lately. She collected TONS of books about when you have to say goodbye to someone you love. I now know why she had such an interest in the subject.



2 comments:

Anonymous said...

Amazing! Molly was so in tune with the Spirit. I still love reading the blog! I just miss hearing her voice and her infectious laughter....Molly we miss and love you so much.

Tricia Grimsman

Jan W said...

Kristin, Find the book called The Message. Your Mom gave all of our Bunco group this book. It is amazing. Read the part about when the father was watching his kids during the day while they were in school. The father had passed away and then came back to life. His kids didn't know he had passed away and by him telling them what they had done that day that was his way of letting them know that he had actually died because there was no way he would have known what they had done that day. It was also for the purpose to let them know that even when our loved ones have died they are still with us at times. I believe it was also for the purpose to let them know that there is life after death. I may not be remembering the book exactly the way it was written, but the main point is that your Mom can be with you even though she has passed on. I also want you to know that all the stages of grief are ok for you to feel without guilt. It is ok and necessary for you to heal. Everyone experiences each stage at different times and there is not any set rules as to when you should be over it or back to normal so to speak. I was so much in denial when I heard about your Mom's death that I literally couldnt believe she was gone. Even when I saw her in her casket. It is finally hitting me now and my emotions are all over the place. Feelings of loss, deep sadness for everyone who is dealing with this. I've felt anger that comes and goes, all the emotions. I don't know when it will end or if it ever will, but its ok. I just want you to know that. I know you don't know me, but I feel so much compassion for you and your family. When you wrote "Momma I miss you so much," I feel your pain and wish I could give you a big hug and make it all better. I love your Mom so much, she was such a good friend and I am blessed to have been a part of her life. I love Carly and got to know her when she would join us at our Bunco get togethers. and even though you don't know me I still love and care about you kids. Take care dear hearts and may you feel your Mothers presents when you need her. Love Jan Washington